Burial or cremation?

• If burial - where would you like to be buried?  Have you considered a woodland burial?
• If cremation - what would you like done with the ashes afterwards - buried, or scattered? 
• And where would you like the ashes to be?

in church, at the crematorium, or elsewhere?

• You have a right to a funeral service in an Anglican parish church if you have normally lived in that parish, or if you die in the parish.  You don't have to be a member, or to have attended.  You don't have to be a Christian, though of course a service in church will have a Christian quality.
• The service at the crematorium can be as moving and as appropriate as the service in church.
• It might be that you would like the service where you grew up or somewhere away from where you are now living.  
• Practical issues are a secondary consideration - the people who want to come to your funeral service will come to wherever you choose if they possible can.

What hymns?

What music?

What readings?

Flowers or Donations?

• You may wish to choose hymns, music, poems, readings that are particularly significant for you, or which mean a lot to your family.
• You may also like photographs or other personal items to be visible at the service.
• You may want to specify whether people should send flowers or give donations to a particular charity.
• And funerals don't have to follow any conventional pattern.  You decide what you would like and, when the time comes, your family or your executors will just have to work out how to do it.

• Your funeral - and any function which follows - is generally paid for out of your estate.  So you may wish to suggest ways in which people might have some comfort and pleasure as they remember you.  You can't stop them grieving, but you may be able to offer some tangible and imaginative token of your love for them.